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You have asked me to describe what is the content of the concept of SELF Love?

Fifi and Abush at Puerto Banus, Spain - July 2016

Fifi and Abush at Puerto Banus, Spain - July 2016

You told me to write down what I told you over the mobile lines. So, I shall try to describe it in a colloquial way rather than a scientific way per se.

You know that I have been a pupil of Prof. Modjtaba Sadria, who has been a student and a client of the 1965-85 Parisian professors :the famous post modern  Psychoanalysts  after interpretative philosophy changers1968-80:  Michael Foucault, De luze, Gathtary  & Bordieu. So  here I am  braisly sharing their avenues or  perspectives here.

The first and the foremost base of their teachings is the Wantingto change oneself.

The wanting is the most perplexing boat ride by all of their teachings to me:

 Recognizing the sub conscious core intentions; versus the authoritarian mental dictatorship of

 Our own inner dialogue that is a flux, in the stream of consciousness.

Change is also considered dynamically  central to the fragmented existence of the self individuation process. They consider the human existence as a fragmented entity.  Multiple,  rather than a singular  monotone dictating voice…

The mind acts like a political social dictator. The realization of the dictatorship of our own minds is challenging the intelligence of the heart, which  is pivotal to the journey of processing the self for making changes towards   the purpose of self love.

Awareness is  a  quality type of energy which brings together, the fragmented existence, for the sake of living with the truth of one’s individual self . The unique self! With all of one’s particularities?  That becomes realized as we go through the journey of life, for individuation. Developing along with self realization: for the purpose of making inner capacities for changing. Changing is a continuous phenomenon that could get intertwined with self improvement.

Self Improvement, in turn happens as the result of awareness by  taking small quality steps striding towards excellence.

The paradox of accepting ones faults and mistakes, while searching for excellence means  wanting to move on from: being to becoming.

Not punishing ourselves, by evading or neglecting or ignoring  an  awareness of what had actually went wrong?  But rather, by accepting that as human beings we are all fallible!? Instead of mental productions or garbage ; to realize we are existing as embodied  human beings. We do  make mistakes is that is characteristic of all human beings..

The human being high expectations from the self, entails the dilemma; because that often appears to somehow unleash the forceful tendencies towards SELF Destructiveness. Maybe greed is the motor behind self destructive tendencies. We could become aware of our own specific vulnerabilities.

Self destructive dynamics are rather complex egotistically inter played. The ego trip masks the truths of ones existential trinity of the: Body Heart Mind.

Then the chain effects: trigger the subconscious pattern of self punishment. The Alter ego interplays with the self: that is on one hand, demanding the self to behave faultlessly; under the illusion of faultless Perfection. On the other hand that is inhuman! The Human being is prone to making faulty mistakes...None of us live faultlessly we all make mistakes. So let go of the inner pressures!  We are never perfect! Perfection is only conceptual, a mind over matter illusion governed by the insistent mental dictatorship.

 How are we going to deal with these dilemmas?

While we are searching for the miraculous perfection we get blinded! Because the self realization of our mistakes and faults requires courage, self discipline and self love.

 Often we do not have the emotional capacity to see realities with 20/20 vision sharp and stark. Rather than living with the truth of our existence; we tend to fall for wishful thinking projections, and transferences. These mental mechanisms are typical of the dictatorship of the mind instead of the intelligence of the heart.

If we could have differentiated the games our minds play, with our intelligence of the heart! Then Self Love would have been directly available. However we often have to process the content of our being before accessing the wealth of our self love.

Selfishness masks self love, while they are directly opposite contradicting one another. Selfishness characteristically incorporates patterns of power plays with the aim of domination and intimidation.

We cannot love others, unless we would be able to love ourselves?

 Since, love is a fantastic energy, it is different to mental productions. The sincerity, the authenticity of self love, allows us to see ourselves in the mirrors of love: Wonderful, Insightfully, multidimensional etc.

Selfishness blinds us towards our own behavior ,as well as how our behavior affects others. The consequences of selfish decisions are often exclusive! Thus, leaving others at odds, with themselves, as well  as others ;instead of at ease  fluidly. But, self love is magical ,and attracts others, to reciprocate love kindly , to  become collective empowered together...

Self love allows us to forgive! We would only achieve self love, after admitting to our own  mistakes, taking responsibility for who we are rather than pointing at others wrongs.

 We could only substantiate the love  of ourselves, after forgiving ourselves ,in regard to the faults we have made. Otherwise, we would be unable: to realize what the mistakes were ? In order to avoid their automated patterns ,getting senselessly  habituated and repetitive; weakening our own sense of the self recognition!

The discoveries of the inner spaces, with the inner  shadows : The confrontation of self love, with self pity, and the self victimization, is another very important requirement, for making change from the within: that is  for the benefit of enhancing ones quality of life; we need to stop feeling sorry for ourselves secretly from the eye of our egotism!

  Another stage of the awareness of the inner processes is inlayed between the subconscious, and consciousness: climbing up the ladder of awareness, and sliding down into the darker intricacies, within our mental mechanisms is a great relief! Then flowing with the stream of consciousness towards awareness,. That is another chance, for making the opportunities for self respect.  And, therefore, enlightenment could be experienced. It takes place after verbalization would be admitted. Thus, dismissing the shadows; which slide through the lace of our own mental dictatorship?

Self love is far from self pity. It is not sympathetic. But not pathetic nor, Self centered.

That is one of the reasons that calculative rationales do not count in regard to self love. Power plays do not enhance our inner qualities;  because self love leads to empowerment rather than authorities powerful manifestations. The bad tempered persons do not show self love. They rather emanate self hate destructively. The natural flow of fluidity is different to the calculating authoritarianism, mixing up  the empowering willful self discipline. That is with imposing authority upon others, in the name of creating order out of chaos. The calculative behavior or character disregards others individual framework of independence.